
John Belushi in Animal House
I recently read an article chronicling the shift in America toward a society where women have more power and influence (and more jobs) than men. As of this year, in large part due to the recent decline in contstruction and manufacturing jobs, women hold more of the nation’s jobs than men. 60% of bachelor’s degrees are earned by women. The author argues that today’s economy, management styles and education are all better suited toward women’s natural abilities than men’s. (You can read the article here)
In this rapid shift toward a seemingly female dominated society, it is quite telling to observe that the media often portrays men as lazy, juvenile and unemployed. Being a fraternity member myself, I couldn’t help but notice similar trends in the perception of college frat boys.
What do we expect of our frat boys? Huge parties. Cheap beer. Hookups. Pornography. Hazing. Vandalism. Think this list sounds extreme? Just look at movies like Animal House or Old School. No doubt they are entertaining films, but they certainly shape our expectations of Greek life. If you’re looking for real-life examples, just listen to some alumni stories from your chapter’s heyday. This is the expectation. Sadly, the more this stereotype is endorsed, the harder it will be to take fraternity men (and all men) seriously in society.
But what if we could graduate from the “boys will be boys” mentality? What if these boys joined a fraternity and grew into responsible men of integrity that were lauded for something other than their ability to drink. That’s the core aim that most fraternities were founded on, but it often gets lost in our less noble expectations of what it means to be Greek.
A large part of my role in working with fraternity men is to help them see the alternative – to point them to Jesus who constantly offered revolutionary ways of doing things. I have sensed a shift taking place in Greek culture. Universities are cracking down on keggers and hazing, while things like service, philanthropy and brotherhood are emphasized. I see students speaking up, challenging unhealthy traditions and creating alternatives. It is my prayer that as Greek students give their lives over to Jesus, that they will not only experience deep heart transformation, but that the transformation would spread in tangible ways to their fraternities and sororities.